If you read my prior blog, “Ugh! I’m Single and Middle Aged,” then you’re aware that I dipped into the web of online dating. As interesting as that was, I did find someone through this system who I am totally head-over-heels, crazy-stupid in love with. This man is Jim and he is MY “knight in shining armor.”
The online dating experiences we had both endured prior to meeting each other had been torturous, meaningless and frustrating. When he and I made contact, it was definitely the start of something I never dreamed humanly possible. Now, the beginning of our first date was absolutely horrible! It was awkward, we struggled with conversation, we both became tensed and I personally thought there wasn’t any chance of survival! I literally thought when we got up from our dinner it would be “Adios and good luck to ya!” But, during our walk back to the vehicle, something clicked or changed and neither one of us to this day really know what, how or why that happened. Needless to say, the remainder of the date (obviously) went very well.
As a young girl, I, as I’m sure most little girls do, dream of our perfect man. Mine consisted of someone who would laugh relentlessly with me, who respected me, had my back, defended me, protected me, who would be my “prince charming” and do all the wonderful romantic things like send cards and letters and flowers and such. He would be my best friend and the person I would talk with about anything and everything without reservation or hesitation. I would be myself with him 100 percent through and through. I wouldn’t be embarrassed or ashamed of anything about myself and he would support me. He would admire me for me and wouldn’t try to change or criticize who I was. He would be kind and caring. Personally, my list of the perfect man went on and on. Oh, and of course, he would like everything I liked and have no complaints about any of my horrible traits or habits. (Yeah, right! Right?)
I have been so fortunate because I found MY perfect man. Jim is this person and by far, much more than I ever expected from a companion. At times, I think he’s got to be completely insane to put up with me, but he does and I have been so excited about life since he came into mine. He tells me all the time how lucky is he because he never thought he would ever find compatibility or the type of connection we have with each other.
Bottom line: Jim treats me like a queen. I have never asked nor have I expected to be put on a pedestal, but this is what he does. He has the kindest and softest heart. He always compliments me and never demoralizes me. He has appreciation and respect for our relationship and doesn’t hesitate to demonstrate it. He makes me laugh and is ALWAYS telling me how fortunate he is to have me in his life. One of the best qualities about Jim is his ability to communicate with me, which to me is the most important aspect in a relationship. He communicates with me on so many different levels, from off-the-cuff humor to the depths of his admiration and love for me. Talking with him is by far the one of the best parts of our relationship. I love to talk and believe that keeping the lines of communication open is the key to a lasting relationship. We just click on so many different levels that we are both sometimes amazed and shocked!
Having Jim come into my life has given me so many new reasons to look forward to tomorrow. Through a lifetime of ups and downs with my prior relationships, I truly did not believe that my soulmate was out there, let alone my “knight in shining armor.” With all of that said, it is with honor and pride that I accepted his proposal of marriage during our recent cruise to the Caribbean.
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